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Flemming loved music, by Pamela Holm

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While the church and the human rights commissions represented Dad’s vocation, his soul loved music and it played a substantial role in his life. He was well known for bursting out in song and loved to listen to others whether amateur or professional. He was basically self-taught and helped others to open up to their own music.

Brought up in a family and community who had relocated from Denmark, singing together helped them to keep their spirit strong and maintain their sense of identity. At the same time, when others in the community introduced them to songs in English, like the songs of Harry Lauder, the family embraced them, too. His parents taught him folk and children’s songs and songs of Christian faith and their Danish heritage. Hymn singing provided the foundation for his understanding of harmony and he learned to harmonize from his father, who had learned to sing bass and tenor in Denmark. Learning new music at school, he brought songs of the British Isles home to his parents, which I’m sure helped their English skills, as within the family they spoke only Danish. I realized later that their English was better than many other immigrants, a combination of a musical ear and singing.

Around the time when he was in grade 8, Dad heard a rehearsal of the Messiah with the choir of Trinity United Church, in New Glasgow, and said in his memoirs “My spine tingled and the blood rose to my face as I listened to the Halleluja Chorus”. After moving to Halifax, he enjoyed attending performances of the Messiah and participating in the Messiah from scratch. Heather and I both shared this experience with him. The last live performance he attended was when I was singing with the Halifax Camerata Singers in 2005, a treasure for both of us.

In grade ten, he heard Gilbert & Sullivan’s Trial by Jury and HMS Pinafore. Throughout the rest of his life he maintained a fine appreciation of the witty political satire and music of Gilbert and Sullivan.

At around the age of 13 or 14, while washing dishes with his mother, they sang songs including Nearer my God to Thee, during which he held his own on the tenor line with his newly changed voice for the first time. No hesitation for him!

While living in Truro where his father was the caretaker for the Maritime School for Girls, he was hired as a janitor at a church which gave him access to the piano and organ. In school he had learned about the scale “do, re, mi ” and about sharps and flats. From a magazine advertisement for piano lessons he figured out where middle C was and started teaching himself to read music. When discovered by someone in the church, he was guided to a simpler hymn which would be “a bit easier”. This led to his parents borrowing an organ to have in their house for him to play and “a couple” of lessons. In our grandparents home was a pump organ which we use to play as children. I don’t know if this was the same one, or what the story was, but it was there. Eventually, he developed enough skill to be able to accompany simple hymns for country churches. The pinnacle of his choir career was conducting the choir at Brunswick St United, and writing arrangements of Danish hymns for his choir. He also helped with music for the Scandinavian Society in the Halifax area.

Not long after starting on the organ, his family moved back to Pictou county, and he procured a mouth organ. In his sixteenth year, Dad developed polio, for which he was treated mostly at home. During this time his mother was pregnant and for the period close to delivery, he was admitted to the hospital. For the delivery, his mother was in the next room to him. So, some of his brother John’s earliest music would have been Danish songs played on the harmonica!

He wrote about listening with his family to the Old Fashioned Revival Hour from Pasadena, California on the radio. I can imagine this must have been as inspiring for him as the television program Hymn Sing was for me.

Being introduced to the accordion on a couple of occasions planted a seed. After finishing his theology degree and along the way to his first charge in Readlyn, Saskatchewan, he bought an accordion to keep himself company on long winter nights. I understand it held music together at times for services, too. That accordion was a common sound as we were growing up and Heather eventually took it up, and has played all over Nova Scotia with her bands Cuckoo Moon and Salt and Heather.

He had his own foray into the theatre…. when studying at Pine Hill Divinity School, each year the theatrical society put on a play, and the theology students did a spoof on it. In his last year, he undertook the re-writing of Othello, and at one time we saw a copy of his script and a photo of himself in tights!!! Imagine this modest dresser in costume that showed his legs in tights!

In 1956 when Dad met our mother, he found someone else who liked to sing, and had had a year of piano lessons and had started on a guitar. She, too, had musical genes waiting to be strengthened and her brother, who was playing guitar professionally, had given her a radio that opened her to new genres of music, like opera and classical music.

Soon after marriage, they purchased a record player. While pregnant with Heather, they had listened to Bach’s Jesu Joy of Man’s Desiring, which has continued to be a favorite of Heather’s throughout her life. Some of my favorite early memories are of Mom & Dad singing Scottish & Irish songs or hymns while doing the dishes, with dad harmonizing to mom’s melodies.

As children, when the night settled in on our drives back home, I spy games would cease and singing would begin. This was where we children heard harmonies, and were encouraged to try our own. Singing accompanied hikes through summer and autumn leaves (songs like “I love to go a wandering…” and ” “Waltzing Matilda”) and around the Christmas tree, and through church activities.

Dad considered Mozart, Bach and Vivaldi as his favorite classical composers. Most Beethovan stirred up emotions too much for him. After moving to Halifax, Dad led the choir at Brunswick St United and sang in the one at Port Wallis. He loved music for worshiping God. He loved to sing and he loved to hear the beauty of souls expressing themselves through music.

When I heard about Dad’s heart attack, as I started to pack, the music I wanted to sing with him started to come to mind. First was the Messiah and especially the aria: He shall feed his flock. When I arrived, after he had passed away, Heather produced a list of his choices of music for his funeral. This was one of his choices, too. All of the music today was from that list.

Thank you Dad, for your love of singing and your drive to learn music and share it with the world. You have inspired my musical and theatrical path, and helped to lay a great foundation.

Bev and Josephine will join me now in performing, from the messiah, “And He shall feed his flock”
The lyrics are significant:
And he shall feed his flock like a shepherd,
and he shall gather the lambs with his arm.
And carry them within his bosom
And gently lead those who are with young.
Come unto him ye that labour
Come unto him that are heavy laden
and he will give you rest
Take his yoke upon you, and learn of him
For he is meek and lowly of heart
And ye shall find rest unto you souls.

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Flemming Holm, 1926-2009

Flemming Holm

I intend to keep this website online indefinitely, and will be adding material to it as I go through his papers and computer files. ~ Heather Holm

Obituary, Flemming Holm

Flemming Holm in 1960

Flemming Holm in 1960

HOLM, Flemming — 83, has written his last letter to the editor. He passed away in South Shore Regional Hospital on Thanksgiving Sunday, October 11, 2009, following a severe heart attack the day before.

He was born in 1926 in Denmark, to the late Viggo and Magda (Birkholm) Holm. They emigrated to Canada in 1929, and he never lost the Danish language. He grew up in Pictou County, N.S. During the Depression his father worked on farms in Loch Broom, Bay View, and Caribou, and finally Abercrombie where they bought their own farm. Flemming was valedictorian for his high school graduating class of Colchester County Academy in Truro. He attended Kings and Dalhousie universities, receiving an MA in History before attending Pine Hill Divinity College.

Flemming Holm in 2006

Flemming Holm in 2006

He was ordained a United Church Minister in 1950 and served first in Readlyn, Sask., returning to Pictou County and the Saltsprings-Alma pastorate in 1954. He was involved in the beginnings of the Atlantic Christian Training Centre (Tatamagouche Centre) and there met June Eikhoud. They married in 1957 and raised four children while he served congregations in New Mills, N.B.; Valley outside Truro; and Antigonish.

In 1973 he left the active ministry to work for the Nova Scotia Human Rights Commission in Sydney for six years then the Halifax office of the Canadian Human Rights Commission for 12 years. He retired in 1991. He continued to live in Dartmouth, caring for his parents in their old age.

In 2001, his daughter Heather and her husband made him “an offer he couldn’t refuse,” and he became a live-in grandfather, “Bestefar” in Danish, to his only grandchild, Malcolm. The two of them became well-known in Kentville and later on the South Shore for their many excursions together, including frequent stops at Tim Horton’s. At home, they shared their interests in reading, discussion, humour, geography, history and world affairs. Flemming lived with Malcolm’s family until his death.

The call for social justice was the part of Christ’s message that spoke to Flemming most clearly. It resonated with the social and humanitarian values he inherited from his Danish forbearers. Dear to his heart was Brunswick Street United Church and its inner city mission in north end Halifax. Later he was an active member of Port Wallis United Church, the United Church of St. Paul and St. Stephen in Kentville, and Trinity United Church in Mahone Bay. In each of these congregations, he spearheaded action on issues of injustice and inequality, as well as bible study. He used preaching opportunities to speak of individual and collective responsibility to make our communities and the world a better place.

As much as Flemming was inspired by community and political leaders with a strong sense of social justice, so too were others touched by his humility, sense of dignity and equality for all, encyclopaedic knowledge of history, wit and humour.

In retirement, he continued to practice what he preached, giving voice to causes of social justice. He was instrumental in the effort to seek justice and protection for four crewmembers of the ship Maersk Dubai who had spoken out in Halifax about the deaths of stowaways on the high seas. After a trip to Nicaragua in 1987, he often spoke in public on the efforts of the Sandinista government to improve the lives of its citizens. He frequently wrote politicians and newspapers on issues of the day, and many of these letters can be found on his blog at www.FlemmingHolm.ca.

In 1998, he received the Human Rights Citizenship Award from the Nova Scotia Human Rights Commission. He was named Pine Hill Alumnus of the Year in 2003.

He wrote a number of histories and study guides over the years, most recently a History of Trinity United Church, Mahone Bay (2005).

He is survived by his children, Heather Holm (Steve Sepulchre), Martins Point; Pamela Holm, Perth, Ont.; Michael Holm (Dorcas Beaton), Toronto and Carol Holm (Blake Rink), Calgary; grandson, Malcolm Sepulchre, Martins Point; sister, Anne Hines (Patrick Mullen), Rosarito, Mexico; brother, John (Jocelyne) Holm, Victoria, B.C.; former wife, June Maginley (Charles), Mahone Bay; aunt, Emilie Lindblad, Stellarton; nieces and nephews, Kathy Parker, Karen Lajoie, Ken Power, Douglas Power, Dan Holm and Nicolas Holm; many cousins, grand and great-grand-nieces and nephews, and dear friends who remember him fondly.

Thanks to Dr. David Martell and to the ICU staff at SSRH: nurses Dan, Margie and Roisin, and Dr. Kim Crawford; for their exceptional care, compassion and good humour.

He was not afraid to die, and passed away with relief and in peace, with all his children present or on their way. As for what he would find on the other side, he said, “Let God surprise me.”

Funeral will be held in Trinity United Church, Mahone Bay, Saturday, October 17, at 2 p.m., followed by a reception in the church hall. Cremation has taken place. Interment in Abercrombie Cemetery on Sunday, October 18, at 3 p.m. Family flowers only, please. Donations may be made in his name to the Stephen Lewis Foundation, the Tatamagouche Centre or to Brunswick Street Mission, Halifax. Funeral arrangements have been entrusted to Mahone Funeral Home. On-line condolences may be made at: www.MahoneFuneral.ca.

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Funeral Services for Flemming Holm

Funeral services will be held on Saturday, October 17, 2009, at Trinity United Church in Mahone Bay.

Cremation has taken place and the ashes will be interned at Abercrombie Cemetery (north of New Glasgow) on Sunday, October 18, tentatively at 3 p.m.  More details to follow.

Flemming Holm passes away

Flemming passed away on Thanksgiving Sunday. He had a remarkable day to that point, lucid, appreciative, occasionally in pain and sleepy, but knowing that it would soon be over.

At one point during the morning, he asked if we shouldn’t call the funeral home and give them a heads up. He was serious. I looked at the clock and said, “If they’re in church they’ll be hearing about it,” as I had been talking with the minister.

He had a few special visitors on his last day, and I am grateful for those visits, for his sake and for theirs. The day before, he’d asked for his cane, as he’d left home without it, on a stretcher. Today his grandson delivered it; to some of us a cane might be a sign of weakness, but to Flemming it was a symbol of mobility, I think.

He was eager to go. And he did, quickly, as he wished. My brother was with him when he died.

Last Sunday was the first time he’d gone to church and regretted it, because he was too tired. He could barely make his way up the stairs in our house – and his legs were the strongest part of him. Other ailments were causing him increasing amounts of misery. He’d sorted through his belongings, anticipating a move to a nursing home. (That he didn’t was their loss, I’m sure.)

They say that to some it is given the ability to choose the time of their death. I think he was one of those.

I will continue to post relevant material to this website as I go through his writings, and will leave the website up as a memorial to a man of exceptional goodness, sincerity and unselfishness who I am proud to call my father.

Please feel free to leave comments.

Blessings and peace. Amen.

Heather and family

Flemming Holm in hospital

Flemming had a very bad heart attack yesterday morning. He is in the ICU at South Shore Regional Hospital, very weak and not expected to recover.

Dad has for years been very clear to everyone – relatives, friends, doctors, specialists – that he would rather go quickly than linger bedridden for a long time. Given that most of his ailments would not take him quickly, but rather leave him more and more miserable – and needing nursing care – for years, he is quite at peace about the expected outcome of this heart attack.

As he said today, repeating a joke I’ve heard him tell hundreds of times, “What did the monkey say when he got his tail caught in a meat grinder?”

“What?” said his daughter-in-law, who did not know the joke.

“It won’t be long now.”

Family is gathering. He has been preparing for this journey as his health has declined steadily and markedly in the last 3 years. His affairs are in order and he is not afraid.

There are many people he would love to see, but he is too tired to handle very many, so we are not encouraging visitors at this time. You may send your greetings to him or to the family by e-mail (see contact page) or by leaving a comment on this post. We will read him what messages we can, as he is able to listen and as time allows.

Heather Holm